This applies not just to a relationship between two people of the same sex, but also to mixed race couples, to those who have found their soul mate in someone from a foreign country and to those whose chosen partner comes from a completely different social level. More especially, for younger people, arguments are raised against beginning a union with someone considerably older than they are.
There are, however, many more considerations to bear in mind in a lesbian relationship before settling down to a life of peace and quiet together and letting the world go its own way, especially when the relationship involves two people of different ages.
The first hurdle a new couple have to overcome is the level of social acceptance. For many the major drawback of an open same-sex relationship is the reaction of family, friends and work colleagues and the risk they run of being cut off, of being pushed to the outside of former social circles, of losing friendships or, worse still, being rejected by their own families.
The next hurdle is the age difference. For many any relationship where there is a greater age range than, say, five years is suspect, can cause uncomfortable thoughts and even comments. Age should, however, make no difference for the couple themselves where love or a great personal attraction is involved.
The advantages of having a lesbian relationship with an older woman are manifold. There is a greater level of experience, not just with life in general, but also with the more intimate side of a relationship. An older woman who has experienced life, who understands the difficulties of living in a society where same-sex relationships are still frowned upon, can bring a certain level of calm when problems arise.
On the intimate side, as far as sex is involved, an older woman brings more than just love into a relationship, she also brings the experience of previous partners, a better understanding of her own body, needs and desires and a willingness to share in order to retain a good and stable relationship. And, in the end, a lesbian relationship with an older woman is much the same as any other relationship with an older person, even when it is judged, or condemned, by others. It depends on the two people who love one another, and not on the opinions of those who lack understanding for the true meaning of a relationship regardless of age, sex or origins.
